10 Different Ways to Spice Up Missionary Sex

 10 Different Ways to Spice Up Missionary Sex

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It's simple to write off missionary-style sex as completely boring and snooze-worthy. The sex position, in which the giving partner is on top and the receiving partner is on their back, is frequently regarded as the simplest, most traditional way to engage in sexual activity. But it is much more deserving of praise than that.

Kiana Reeves, Chief Brand Officer and educator at sexual health and wellness company Foria, says that this position offers an opportunity for more emotional intimacy because you are face to face with your lover, defying the stigma of "boring vanilla sex" that missionary, regrettably, has associated with it.

According to Reeves, you can actually feel a stronger connection to your partner in this position because you can enjoy full body contact, a kiss, and the ability to look them in the eyes.

In addition, you may not be aware of many other ways to elevate the conventional position. Here are some professional hints for "remixing" missionary for more enjoyment.

1. Think of it as a single course in a "multi-course" experience.

The CEO of the sexual wellness platform Rosy, Lyndsey Harper, M.D., urges people to consider missionary sex as one "delicious dish on the buffet." There are numerous additional choices and add-ons available before, after, and during, she observes.

"Missionary doesn't have to be the main event, or even the final event, so enjoy missionary like you would any other kind of sex, and remember that sex doesn't have to stop just because one partner has orgasmed," says Anne Hodder-Shipp, a sex educator who has earned certification from the American College of Sexologists (ACS).

2. Don't forget to stretch.

Dr. Harper advises engaging in erotic reading alone or with a partner before beginning a missionary — or any position, for that matter — in order to increase your arousal.

A tired woman's guide to passionate sex author Laurie Mintz, Ph.D. advises that you can also try oral sex, vibrator stimulation (for clitoral stimulation, use the LELO's SILA Cruise), manual stimulation, role play, bondage/blindfolds, and dirty talk. The sky's the limit as long as it's pleasurable and consensual, she exclaims.

3. Try this variation on lazy morning sex.

Consider a loose interpretation of the missionary phrase rather than one partner climbing on top of the other: Reeves suggests that both partners lie on their sides, facing each other, with the receiving partner's leg wrapping around the giving partner's body to create space for penetration. This variant may be more relaxed, a little bit lazier, and better suited for morning sex.

4. Include cushions.

Shannon Chavez, Psy.D., a psychologist and sex therapist in Los Angeles, advises, "Start with pillows that can be placed under the bottom of the receiving partner." Elevating the hips will increase pressure, friction, and sensation, increasing the potential for pleasure.

5. Be sassy.

According to Mintz, the receiving partner should lie on the bed with their hips and booty toward the edge while the penetrating partner should stand at the end of the bed, facing the head of the bed. She says that this has the advantage of novelty and yet another variation in the penetration angle.

6. Keep these techniques in mind for deeper penetration.

According to Reeves, the receiving partner can lift and fold their legs against your chest while still lying on their back to deepen the penetration if you want to intensify the position. For a different angle and deeper penetration, she suggests having your partner hold your legs spread wide and outward up to your shoulders.

7. Give clitoral stimulation top priority.

For people with vulvas in any position, says Reeves, litoral stimulation is essential. "It greatly increases your likelihood of experiencing orgasms during sexual activity and can direct you toward various orgasmic states via the connected clitourethral-vaginal complex pathway. This is a long way of saying that all of our pleasure centers cooperate when they are stimulated independently, which is how we can have various combinations of orgasms."

According to Dr. Harper, there are several ways to stimulate the clitoral region during missionary sex, including using your hand, your partner's hand, or even adding a vibrator. "A small bullet vibrator works best in this situation because it doesn't get in the way," she adds. "Alternatively, some couples find that a combined vibrator that can stimulate both you and your partner simultaneously works well." One to try is TOR 2 or LELO's Tiani 3.

8. Examine an anal toy.

Missionary is conducive to anal arousal. Anal toys can be worn by either or both partners, and Hodder-Shipp notes that the receiving partner may find them particularly enjoyable because they give them the feeling of being "filled up." Additionally, she adds, "it's a fantastic way for the giving partner to engage in additional stimulation hands-free."

Reeves advises choosing a butt plug with a flat end if you are the person lying on your back so it won't get in the way or feel uncomfortable.

9. Concentrate on sensuality

According to Chavez, "the missionary role allows you to use the senses as an arousal booster." She explains that one way to get warmed up is to put your face in your partner's chest or neck and smell them.

Eye contact and making eye contact with your partner can heighten arousal and cause the release of hormones that hasten feelings of security and bonding, says Chavez. Missionary also makes it easier for you to communicate with your partner, read their facial cues, and listen for any sounds they might make while having sex. According to Chavez, "all of these things can heighten your own arousal and desire."

10. Express your demands.

Dr. Harper admits that for women, depending on their cycle and the condition of their pelvis, certain positions might not be comfortable or even painful at particular times. Therefore, if you ever feel any kind of sexual discomfort, you should let your partner know.

According to Dr. Harper, sometimes a slight adjustment in your or your partner's position can lessen the depth or angle of penetration. This can be accomplished by slightly rotating the body of either partner or by tucking a small pillow under the bottom partner's hips. sextubearea.com